Wednesday, August 22, 2012

My Family

So, I'm discovering that maintaining a blog is a lot harder than it sounds. You need to post regularly if you want people to read it! That being said, sorry about the delay, I've had a busy couple of weeks. Moving on...

This post is to provide all the sordid details into me and my family. Well, maybe not all, a girl's gotta have some mystery about her. Let's start with me, shall we? I am 38 years old, a Gemini and the oldest of 4 siblings. I work an 8-5 job at a large corporation, am divorced and have 5 daughters. I have a quirky sense of humor, love to laugh and quote movies. I love astrology, but try not to take it too seriously. I make friends pretty easily, but have a hard time maintaining friendships. Thank goodness for Facebook, because otherwise I would have no idea what was going on in other people's lives.

I met my ex-husband when we were in college and we dated for two years and got married in our senior year. Our oldest was born right away and then three more girls followed in the next 7 years. We had our ups and downs and always seemed to have money issues. We were always good friends and had a good time together, however in 2008 I became involved with another man and that led to our divorce the following year. Now, before you send me any hate letters, let me say that I in no way condone having extramarital affairs. I am simply explaining what happened in my life. It was not pretty and a LOT of shit went down. Everyone involved got hurt and it was so not the right way to go about it. However, I am not perfect and sometimes bad stuff happens. You just have to roll with it.

As a result of the divorce, my ex requested custody of our daughters. This was really hard for me, but he was eventually granted custody. He moved about an hour and a half away so that he could be close to his parents. It sucks to have them so far away, but it could be worse. My ex and I are now in a good place emotionally. We have forgiven each other and made peace which is always better when kids are concerned.

So, that guy that I left my husband for? We are still together and I love him now more than ever. His name is Jason and he is not someone that I would have seen myself with, but I think that makes it all the more perfect. He is an Aries and he is very stubborn and opinionated. He loves Metal and tattoos and me. Much to our surprise, we discovered I was pregnant shortly after my divorce was finalized. Not the best timing, but we rolled with it and our daughter was born in May 2010. The natural step you would assume would be for us to get married, but we really aren't in a huge hurry. He was actually in a bad marriage before he met me and is still terrified of the thought of getting married again. It will probably happen one of these years and when it does, it will be one hell of a party.

My family has dubbed my daughters, "The Pinks" as they are all pretty girly and we have gone through enough pink clothes to last a lifetime. Fortunately, they all have very different personalities and have developed their own likes and dislikes. I think pink is still on the list somewhere, though.

Hannah Rose is my oldest at 16 years old. She is very much the bossy older sister (she's a Taurus), however she is really growing into a beautiful young woman. She has a good heart and is a good friend. She is learning to drive and the thought of that scares the bejeezus out of me. She is also a budding photographer and has really discovered a talent for it.

Cordelia Grace is my sensitive soul. She is 12 and has always been rather shy and reserved. She has always been very loving and will be the first one to give hugs. She tends to get her feelings hurt easily and also at that awkward pre-teen age where everything is a big deal. She is my July baby and a Cancer.

Paige Nanette is my artist. She is 10 and it is rare that I don't see this girl with a pen and paper in her hand. She is my fellow Gemini and I fully expect to go to one of her Gallery showings in the next few years. She constantly amazes me with her talent. Even being the middle child, she has no chance of being left out. She has a bubbly personality and instantly engages everyone she meets.

Elsa Ruth is almost 9 and she was my first baby. She is a budding gymnast and is always doing backbends and cartwheels around the house. She is also the neatest of the girls and like to have her things in a very precise way (Virgo). Don't cross her though or she will lash out. She is very reserved around new people, but once she gets to know you, she'll talk your ear off.

Emmeline Marlena is my final baby. She is two years old and is becoming very much her own little person. She is actually very much like Hannah was when she was young (another Taurus). She actually has a unique position of being an only child and having older sisters. She gets so excited when they are visiting, though, they don't always do things "her way".

So, there you have it, my modern family. My life is pretty much an open book so if you have any questions, I would be happy to answer them.

I need some walking shoes

I need walking shoes, not running shoes (although I need those too), but good shoes to walk in. I work in an office where the dress code is business casual except on Fridays when we can where jeans. Athletic shoes, however are not permitted on any day. I happen to be lucky enough to have an office in a great location where there is a lot of room and sidewalks to walk on my breaks. Now, I could bring my tennis shoes every day and just change into them for my walk. The problem with that is that I absolutely hate the way tennis shoes look with dress clothes. It irritates me to no end and I can't bring myself to do it. I have issues, I know. I've tried walking in my flats (on days that I wore them to work), but most just aren't supportive enough. Flip-flops are another option, but again no support and I've discovered that they can give me really bad back pain.

Side note, I took my girls, A.K.A. "The Pinks" as dubbed by my family, shopping last Saturday around an outdoor mall near our house. I wore my cheapo Old Navy flip-flops because I have a pair in every color and by the end of the day, my feet and my back hurt. Apparently, I am getting old enough to require shoes with foot support at all times. Ugh.

Back to my dilemma, I actually dug my old Birkenstocks out of the closet and wore those on my walk today. Yes, I've had them since college in the 90's. Don't judge me. They were actually pretty comfortable to walk in and no back pain. Win! I'm still looking around, though. I found this shoe and this one on Amazon, but I'm still debating. It is so tough to be stylish and comfortable!

Any tips or suggestions of shoes that you like?